Friday, September 12, 2014

~This is how it should be~


I look around me all the time and I see husbands and wives yelling at each other these days, there is no respect or honor in marriages nowadays..it just isn't common to see a husband honoring his wife or a wife respecting her husband! I just hate to see it falling apart like that and couples giving up on each other like they seem to do quite commonly in this day in age!
A woman should respect her husband and desire to please him, also in my mind a woman's job is to be proud of our husband and encourage him by lifting him up by having a smile on her face when he walks in the door from work! That's the way I've always imagined it to be!
And it's not always about being right all the time..it's about listening to your spouse and deciding together what is best, it's about give and give..not so much about give and take to me, I think you both give and learn that taking isn't as important to you anymore..because being married is sharing your lives with each other and it's about being so happy that you no longer think about the word "compromise" because the word compromise really indicates that one persons idea is pushed aside but in reality..the two shall become one so what he wants is what she wants and what she wants he wants! That means that you're in this together equally, now the husband is the head of the household but I've heard it said that the woman is the neck, which means that you are in this together..you both play an essential role in the relationship and that's very important to understand in my mind when it comes to marriage.
Ephesians 5:22-33
"22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband."
Respect is key in any marriage as well as honor, you should have your spouses best interest at heart and learn patience toward your other half! Be happy and find someone who truly appreciates you and a man that wants to honor you, someone who will want to kiss you even when you're old and grey, someone who brings joy into the shadowy places in your life, someone who is giving and caring toward you, someone who is hardworking and loyal to you, and most of all someone who is ready to lead!
That's the way it's going to be when I marry someday!
1 Peter 3:7
"7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered."
~Dani

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