Monday, August 18, 2014

~Matters of the Heart~

Have you ever noticed that you're not really lonely until someone makes you realize that you're single? Or maybe when another one of your friends gets married?
I wonder people seriously think it's your choice to be single?
I believe one of the oddest questions I get all the time is "do you have a boyfriend yet?" Or "do you want to meet someone..they're really "nice".. Why do people feel as though they have the right to make you feel inadequate in your personal life just because you haven't met the right one..almost as if you're under some kind of time frame? 
Do you ever want to just tell them that maybe the reason why you are still single is because you haven't met "the one" yet? It's almost as if being alone for a while isn't alright and it makes you want to ask them if they were born engaged to someone as it is obvious that they've never been single before. 
I'm writing this for all the single ladies and single men out there that are tired of people making you feel inferrer because you aren't "dating" anyone but are instead "waiting" for're waiting for "the one" and you're not ashamed to admit that you've never been interested in someone enough yet to go out with them on a date because you just want to go out with someone that you see, your eyes meet and you suddenly realize that they could be the right person for you and you're going to dig a little deeper to get to know that person and learn what their goals, hopes and ideals are in life.
I want you to know that it's alright to be single and to be happy about it! there's nothing wrong with being a happy person who doesn't have anyone to share the happiest moments with in your life at this time, there's plenty of time to find love out there..if you're still waiting then there's someone out there who is also waiting for you and holding back their heart from another just because they haven't found the right person yet! You're not alone in your loneliness if you're lonely..I'm lonely sometimes too but most of the time I'm happy and I allow myself to be busy to keep my mind off of it! 
It's alright to understand that being single is but a mere season just like any other season in ones can't force things into motion that aren't ready no more than you can prevent them from taking place in your life!
It will happen when it's ready to happen and when it does happen it will be right! Nothing or no one can prevent love from coming into your life if it's truly meant to be so don't become discouraged, believe in yourself, believe in people and most of all believe in the power of true love and that it exists!
One of my favorite quotes is..
"It might take a year, it might take a day but what's meant to be will always find a way!"
Don't become cast down and hopeless just because last years romance didn't work out and you trusted someone..most of us are also guilty of that but it's not much of a life if you can't build it on trust with someone you care about, now is it?
There is a season for everything it even says it in the bible..
"Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
"​1 For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:
2 a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
3 a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up; 4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7 a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8 a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace."
And there's also another matter to think about..if you have loved time and time again but you've been hurt countless times then maybe the problem is that you need to be single for a while instead of jumping right into a new relationship? Because if you were really doing it right all this time then why hasn't it been working out? Give your heart to God to protect and don't listen to those around you when they are critical of your relationship status..if they do however ask just simply tell them "My relationship is still pending.." Trust me..they will look at you funny but they probably won't ask you that question for a while. 
Be happy, single, dating or married and happiness will always find you wherever you are in life!

1 comment:

  1. Thanks Danielle. I think most people don't realize how that feels asking such a personal question. However, I do believe most do it out of love. One thing I have learned in my life is that God has his own perfect timing. To make love happen in our own will only causes us pain. A pain that He clearly did not intend for us to experience. Also, some people are called to live a life of singled-om simply to focus on His purpose. We learn that God is our comforter, friend and lover. All things hard to accept while you are going through a trial and really just need a hug but God wraps His arms around us and pulls us close in the most comforting and complete way possible. To serve the Lord without complication of relationship with another human and the freedom to move as He commands...what a joy!